“Beauty is truth’s smile when she beholds her own face in a perfect mirror.”
We have all heard this sentiment: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To this, I would like to add that when it comes to how you see yourself, you are the most important beholder! When you look in the mirror, what do you focus on? What is the first thought your mind says about you? Do you see and get caught up in the surface imperfections and the physical signs of aging? Or does your wisdom and experiences—the real you—shine through?
You really do have the choice; it is completely up to you how you want to view yourself. When I look in the mirror, I choose to see my beauty within coming through the lined, aging face that my fifty-seven years have produced. We can all see ourselves this way. Young or old, we each contain the same light, the same never-ending source of love, the same magnificence of creation…of life. This is what beauty is: a beauty that lasts a lifetime, no matter how many years have passed.
It’s definitely true that our youth “slips away” as we age—no matter how much we may want to hold on to it. So we must look at aging, not about losing our beauty, but about trading in one concept of beauty, a superficial, external one, for the deeper one: inner beauty. This is what we can truly choose to focus on when we look in the mirror and share ourselves with others. Here are three ways for you to recognize the beauty in yourself:
- Redefine Your Definition of Beauty
Just what is beauty anyway? I don’t think it is what the media would have us believe: that it is a thing we need to achieve or maintain. Since beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, don’t rely on an impossible-to-achieve definition of what makes you beautiful. Choose to define beauty for yourself and others in your own way. You have that right!
- Remove Your Magnifying Glass
No one is looking at you with a magnifying glass, so why should you? I’m not speaking of a literal magnifying glass, but that part of you that tends to zero in on what you don’t like about yourself. Next time you look in the mirror, say, “I am beautiful!” Look past your perceived flaws and know deeply how incredibly magnificent it is to have “all the right parts” to make your human experience possible!
- Embrace the Truly Beautiful Things About Yourself
Which of your qualities give you pleasure? As the beholder, it is in your control to embrace the beautiful things about yourself and to take pleasure in what makes you who you are, regardless of the smile lines that may have accumulated or the gray of your hair or the creek in your step as you get out of bed. Make a mental note of all the things you appreciate about yourself—those things that bring you joy and help you shine your brilliant light in this world.
When you live life from “the inside out” and focus on the light within you, you will always recognize, appreciate, and be grateful for your everlasting beauty. Youth may be a fleeting thing, but beauty is a lifelong gift. What makes you beautiful? I’d love to know!